Success and Coping With Struggles

“There is no elevator to success. You have to take the stairs.”

Zig Ziglar´╗┐

The meaning of the quote stated above is that, success cannot be handed to you on a single platter. In order to become successful, you have to work for it, and not for merely a short period of time. It may take months, years, or maybe even decades, for you to achieve success. Regardless of how long it will take you to become successful, however, there will come a day when you will look back and be grateful that you did not give up.

People have different definitions of success. In someone’s eyes, the idea of success may mean having a good career, owning a nice car, and living happily with one’s family in a big, beautiful house. For another person, one is successful if he/she is doing well academically (getting good grades in school) and emotionally (feeling happy and stable).

People also have different ideas of how to become successful. We each have our own strategies and techniques in coping with problems; we all find that certain things help us, whereas other things do not.

Here are some things that I find have helped me cope with my struggles:

  1. Drawing near to the Lord God. There is no better friend than God, who created all living things. His love for His creations is great and sincere, and there is nothing that He cannot do. When I close my eyes and pray fervently to Him, I feel that He is listening, hearing my cries for help. Once I am finished praying, the pain in my heart fades, and a wave of calmness and relief washes over me. I know in my heart that I am nothing without God; had it not been for Him, I would not even be here.
  2. Keeping myself busy. During my moments of isolation, I tend to think too much and get affected by the littlest things, which causes feelings like anger, anxiety and sorrow to stir in my heart. I feel happier and more satisfied with myself when I have accomplished a lot.
  3. Listening to music. Music is an important part of my life. It is like a friend that has been there for me when nobody else was. It has helped me get through dark times. Some of my favorite genres are Christian, alternative rock, and K-pop.
  4. Reading. I especially take pleasure in reading fiction, which is likened to a temporary escape from reality to me. When I read a science-fiction and fantasy novel, I picture myself as the protagonist of the story, or any of the other prominent characters, and feel as if I am being taken to a new dimension.
  5. Writing. As I stated before in A Fresh Start, writing is my passion. Back in first grade, I would write short stories then share them with my teacher, who would tell me to read it aloud in front of my classmates. I began writing poetry when I was around twelve or thirteen years old. At present, I do not write poetry as often as I did before, but I plan to change that.

What things give you comfort and hope in the midst of troubles and distress?